Understanding Assertiveness


Passiveness says: “I disrespect self” because I am the victim, you deserve it and I do not.
                Passiveness seeks avoidance and incorporates withdrawal from situations.
  The outcome of passiveness is usually a ‘you win-I lose’ outcome.
Aggressiveness says: “I disrespect others” because I deserve it and you do not.
                    Aggressiveness seeks competition and incorporates manipulation of the other party.
The outcome of aggressiveness is usually a ‘I win – you lose’ outcome.
Assertiveness says: “I respect both you and I” because we both have needs that require to be met.
                Assertiveness seeks collaboration to achieve a win-win for both parties.
                The outcome of assertiveness is usually a ‘I win-you win’ outcome. 

Choose being assertive.

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